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September 21, 2016 by Carrie

From Crunchy to Soggy, and the sweet spot between frugality and environmentalism

There is a sweet spot between frugality and environmentalism. While I aim for both values and they have much overlap, they are sometimes at odds with each other. I’m happiest when I stay in that sweet spot. Read on to see what I mean.

As I review the nearly 2,000 posts published on this blog, a few things have struck me. I’ve changed through the years. One of the things I noticed?

I was a pretty crunchy mama. Now, I’m a bit… soggy.

I used to do things like make my own skin and hair care products, and I lived without a dryer for a few years. I used cloth diapers with all seven of my kids and even did a bit of elimination communication with a couple of them. We drank raw milk and I made my own sauerkraut. I rendered lard and made my own dishwashing liquid. Five of my babies were born at home, and they were breastfed for years. Etc.

From Crunchy Mom to Soggy Mom

I won’t touch raw milk with a ten food pole at the moment, mostly because my anxiety levels shot sky high after my preemie was born. I got scared off after reading one too many stories of vulnerable kids ending up on dialysis because of e.coli in raw milk. Apparently, e.coli is getting hardier and nastier, making outbreaks more dangerous than they were in our grandparents’ day. Le sigh.

For several years I recorded a podcast called Natural Moms Talk Radio. Most of those 100+ interviews were on eco-friendly, ultra-crunchy alternative topics.

I’m not as crunchy as I used to be.

At the moment, there are (gasp!) paper plates and cups in my kitchen because my dishwasher has been broken for weeks (the repairman is coming today, praise be!) and I got tired of spending so much time washing dishes for nine people. I don’t make homemade natural cleaning products.

I think my crunchy turned a bit soggy as my family grew and as I got older (read: more tired). I simply don’t have the time or energy to do some of the things I used to.

However, I still do many things that are environmentally responsible.

I use reusable grocery bags (hello, ALDI!), clean with microfiber cloths, I still use cloth diapers, I shop used for most of the things I acquire, I trash pick treasures, I conserve water and energy, wash laundry in cold and even take cool showers. And I hang laundry occasionally – particularly last week, when my dryer was broken. I recycle. I eat a lot of beans and take my reusable water and coffee mug with me everywhere. 

house energy audit

What’s all this crunchy talk have to do with frugality?

Last summer I went on a fiscal freeze and spent as little money as possible. While I did manage to sock away a good deal of money into savings for our upcoming home purchase and put some money into my investments, I also learning something about myself:

I’m happiest when I stay in the sweet spot between frugality and environmentalism. 

I drew this diagram that illustrates this. (Apologies for the greasy spots, there is no place I can put down a piece of paper in my home where this won’t happen. I have a lot of people living here.)

frugality and environmentalism

Some things are obviously frugal and eco-friendly.

Hanging your laundry. Using cloth diapers. Keeping the A/C at 81 all summer. Breastfeeding. Walking or biking instead of driving. Etc.

Other decisions are environmentally friendly but not particularly frugal. 

Shopping for the highest-quality clothing because it will last for decades. Installing solar panels on your roof. Eating organic vegetables and buying meat from a farmer.

I snagged a free-after-coupons-and-deals shampoo last summer, but the plastic-y perfume-y smell coming off of my daughters’ heads is making me feel sick. I regret that purchase. It would have made me happier to spend a little more for shampoo without all that fragrance.

We’re happiest when our spending aligns with our values. Remember the one question that will change your life and finances. 

I know this, but I forgot temporarily.

Staying in my sweet spot of frugality and environmentalism means I just might go back to making some homemade products. At least, the ones that actually work! (I’m talking to you, homemade laundry detergent.) It also means paying a bit more for better quality stuff that will last longer. 

What’s your crunchy/soggy sweet spot? Have you gotten more, or less crunchy over the years?

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Carrie writes about raising a large family frugally and simply, surviving a cult and healing from cPTSD. More about her here.

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  1. Mrs. Picky PIncher says

    September 21, 2016 at 9:10 am

    I don’t think there’s a right way or a wrong way to be frugal. Since we’re renovating a house at the moment, I just don’t have the time to do my typical frugal activities, like making yogurt or baking bread. And we also have paper plates and plastic cups in our house at the moment! Normally I’d be aghast, but hey, life gets hard and sometimes you do need the convenience.

    It’s all about trying your best and doing what’s right for you right now. 🙂

  2. Heather says

    September 21, 2016 at 9:15 am

    Sounds like a great book. I’d love to read it.

  3. Elizabeth says

    September 21, 2016 at 9:51 am

    As a fellow frugal soggy mama with seven kids, I would love to read this book!

  4. Mia White says

    September 21, 2016 at 10:41 am

    I can so empathize with the constant internal battle– One time I had a total breakdown and sent my hubby back to the grocery store to return the bulk of his purchases! I would love to read this book, thanks for the chance to win. 🙂

  5. Mindy says

    September 21, 2016 at 2:00 pm

    I’m a soggy mom and a new follower of your blog and I’m just now trying to find my sweet spot as well. I used to be a spender more than a saver and it’s been so gratifying to save more money and also become more environmental friendly. Thank you for a great read!

  6. Emily says

    September 21, 2016 at 2:10 pm

    Yep, I’m not as crunchy as I used to be, either. Part of it perimenopause lack of energy, part of it just realizing that the world will never be perfect and I am not obligated to bend over backward to try to make it so.

    My big deal is not buying new sweatshop-made clothes (read: 90% of clothing sold either online or in U.S. stores), but we’ve moved to a place where the nearest decent thrift store (a Goodwill) is an hour away, and it is much more lacking than what I got spoiled by when we lived in the ‘burbs. But I do not want to shell out $72 for a fair-trade made sundress when I know the material is not going to last any longer than sweatshop clothing (trust me, BTDT).

    If anyone has any ideas to help me out of that quandry, I’m listening. 🙂

  7. Stacy says

    September 21, 2016 at 11:18 pm

    It sounds like a book I’d love!!!

  8. Stacy T. says

    September 22, 2016 at 7:25 am

    Sounds like an interesting read! I’d love it! Thank you!

  9. Ruth K says

    September 22, 2016 at 5:29 pm

    I think I’m along the same track as you when it comes to easing up on my environmentalism, and balancing my frugality with what aligns with my values. I feel like it’s such a balancing act though, I at the moment it’s driving me a bit crazy. We’ve had to change our eating habits, and I thought that NOT buying a lot of our old junkier food would balance out the fact that we’re buying healthier, more expensive stuff. Not so. My food budget is screaming, and the frugal side of me in torture. Anyway, I would love to win a copy of the book. Sounds like it’s right up my alley.

  10. Jessica says

    September 26, 2016 at 1:52 pm

    This book sounds perfect for when you should make six thousand healthy happy decisions but can’t because oh the humanity and the choices and the earth and my paycheck and yeesh. Trying to walk that line and focus on being the best momma I can be…crunchy and soggy.

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