Creepy Online Stalkers: a discussion and warning
Today I called up my friend Mila on the “telepe-phone”, or the telepathic telephone.
Not really, it’s just that we both were thinking about the same thing today: creepy online stalkers.
She posted here about an issue I’m having over on a community blog of Alice Seba’s that we both post to. Alice finally got fed up and posted about it here. I actually had a similar issue about two years ago when I still kept a personal blog. Someone kept posting (anonymously of course!) nasty little comments about me and my kids.
People like this usually make jabs at you personally, hitting sensitive areas like your kids, your husband (estranged or not), and other places that might hurt. Small people always do that.
You know what? It’s this kind of thing that stops some people from reaching out for their goals: Dream Killers, Fun Suckers and other Bottom Feeders. Emotional vampires. Trolls.
But not me. In order to have success in anything, you have to stick yourself out there and when you do that, you get jealous people who would rather attack you than get a life of their own.
Are you ready?
If you’re just getting started online and read this, know that it will eventually happen to you.
Prepare now.
The universe will test you to see how bad you want it.
Will you pass the test?
Will you hold your head up high and know you’re doing great stuff when others seem bent on discrediting you? Will you keep hiking up the mountain when others put obstacles in your way?
And for those of you who have been building an online business for some time, how have you handled these creepy people?
Kristie T, Tiffany and Mila, have all had creepy people stalk them online, and Mila expressed herself about it.
How did you handle the creepy online stalkers?
Yes, I have run across them. Unfortunately for them I can be a nasty biotch when backed into a corner, LOL. I don’t know if it particularly smart to get into it with those wackadoos but I do usually. Many people think they are insulting me by drawing attention to the fact that I am not mainstream but I am proud of that fact and they usually don’t know what to say when you are loud and proud!
I have also run into people that are envious of my personal situation or my online business. One such person attacked when I first went into this biz and it hit me hard and affected my confidence for a long time. When she found out I had cancer she told people I was faking it!!! Now I could care less if she came back at me with her toxic personality. She is a waste of space.
I have never had someone say nasty things about my kids though. They better not even try it.
It’s interesting because even though you know deep down the person is a little wacko (obviously!), it still hurts and it does make you think… am I really that way?
You mentioned it’s easy for people to discredit you online and I think that’s pretty scary, but we can’t let that stop us.
I think if they start mentioning family and kids that’s as low as they can get… i’m not sure how I would react to that.
I can’t believe people have time to waste on such garbage! Time for them to get a life or just shut up.
I hope the perp disappears and leaves you alone.
Carrie,
I’m so glad to read that you have not allowed these situations to stop you from reaching for your goals!
I think that people like this are afraid to grow beyond their boundaries, as so many people are these days. Unfortunately, it’s what they’re taught while growing up. It’s a good thing there are parents like us who are teaching our children differently. 😀
From a Law of Attraction point of view, it is said that the world is our mirror. Might these people be mirroring a fear you have, subconsciously?
I haven’t read the posts (don’t want to focus on *that* right now 😉 ) but I’ll share an idea. For example, if the people are saying something to the point that you are neglecting your kids, maybe you’ve been a bit worried about that you aren’t spending enough time with them.
Or maybe *you* were taught when you were growing up that you can’t do what you want, men are the breadwinners, or something along these lines. These stalkers might be these beliefs rearing their heads so that you can openly deal with them and get rid of them once and for all.
Consciously making our choices for all areas of our lives (parenting, lifestyle, financial, etc.) is what we’re all about. And because we’ve thought them all through, WE have the power, not the stalkers. 😀
Thanks for sharing your thoughts ladies.
Barb, I understand what you’re saying. While I don’t mirror her thoughts (Alice deleted them), I realize that things like this are actually a blessing.
They prove to me how far I’ve come in my personal growth. I’ve been thinking a lot about how problems are sometimes perfect. I ask myself sometimes “what’s perfect about this problem?” and come up with some interesting benefits.
I’m going to post about that next.
Tiffany, I can’t believe someone would say you faked cancer! That is sicko.
Mila, I didn’t mean to sic her on you. LOL!
Sorry you are being bullied Carrie. Anyone with any insight can see that you are a hard working AND loving mom – it IS possible to be both, Crazy Stalker Person!
I’m surprised she doesn’t realize that by making such comments she is really just showing her own sadness and disappointment in herself. I mean really, it has always seemed to me that those who invest a lot of time criticizing others are only doing so to make themselves look and feel better! She needs to use that time to fix whatever is wrong with HERSELF 😉
Carrie, you just have to look at the source and the way that they strike out at those who are “better” than them. Because you are successful, or attempting to be so, you are a threat. It doesn’t make her words or actions right, but at least you know she’s striking out of insecurity. There’s nothing that you’ve done that warranted the attack. Stand strong and be encouraged that others believe in you! Mara
Carrie;
Gee that is NOT fun. Leadership speaker John Maxwell said this and I think it applies here: “Hurt people, HURT people.” It isn’t fair but it is true. I hope this stops for you once and for all.
Marlo Boux
There are a lot of people out there with toxic personalities who feed off the conflict that results from their offensive comments.
I recommend you do two things:
1) Ignore them in public. They will get board and go find a more responsive target.
2)Surround yourself with people online and in real life who see your value and can help boost your spirits when the haters get you down.
3) If the creepy stalkers don’t go away and/or threaten you or your family or your business, then I recommend you call your local law enforcement and file a report. You can also ask their advice on whether or not you need to contact an attorney or federal law enforcement authorities.
4) Remind yourself that the attacks say more about the attacker than they do about you.
Yes, this has happened to me also. It is usually a situation of joining an on-line group or forum and running across less successful people who are jealous. They ugly behavior is a manifestation of their own insecurites, so I just ignore them. It seems the more successful you become, the more people want to tear you down. It is oh so easy to sit at a computer and bully someone!
I just kill them with kindness and usually they lighten up. Or even better, just totally ignore them because they are trying to upset me – and I just don’t engage in anything with them. I have better things to do than get mixed up with some insecure lunatic.
Now, if they bring my children into the situation, they better be ready to take it outside!