I’ve been thinking a lot lately about systems, and how implementing them is the answer to solving so many problems, especially in a large family.
It started with our embarrassing habit of arriving 1 minute late to our place of worship. Yikes. Week after week we couldn’t get our stuff together to get there before the opening song began.
It wasn’t that we would oversleep, and it didn’t matter how early we were up.
It was just the niggling little things that got us: someone having a last-minute wardrobe malfunction, or the 3-year-old not being able to find her shoes, or breakfast taking too long to cook.
We would get in the car and immediately someone would declare, “So-and-so made us laaa-ate!” and so on.
One thing I have tried to work on in my adult life is this: not assigning blame when a problem occurs, but rather to focus on problem-solving.
I’m not perfect at it, but at least I’m mindful of the tendency we human types have to want to point fingers instead of getting down to the business of improving things.
In the case of Sunday mornings, it isn’t anyone’s “fault”. It’s merely a system breakdown. Or rather, the lack of a system altogether.
There were no clear duties assigned to anyone. Sometimes I made breakfast, sometimes my husband would. Sometimes I got the girls dressed, sometimes their big sisters did. Sometimes I got the baby dressed, sometimes my 10-year-old or husband would, and so on.
Whose “job” was it to make sure Victoria wasn’t wearing (dirty) socks with sandals like she was attending a Woodstock revival? Whose (extremely vital and life-preserving) job was it to make the coffee?
And so, right there in the car, we held a quick family meeting and had everyone pick how they wanted to make Sunday mornings run more smoothly.
The more I thought about this, the more I realized that the things that were consistently working well in my home were due to having a system around it.
My husband and I got out of debt and pay cash for major purchases because we had a system of attack and weekly budget meetings.
Dinner gets on the table every night because of meal planning.
The homeschooling is accomplished because of a daily and weekly routine.
The laundry gets done because of our system.
The house stays (relatively) neat because of chore systems.
And so on.
(Reading the book The Checklist Manifesto by Atul Gawande primed my brain for this internal conversation. It’s a wonderful book. Among other things, it explains why pilots have fewer accidents than surgeons. Both groups are highly intelligent with a fair bit of arrogance to match their talent, but pilots recognize the fallibility of the human brain and so rely on checklists, something that surgeons refuse to do.)
I sat down with my Bullet Journal (itself a system!) and decided to create a few more systems.
In a family with small children, doing the same thing the same way is often the difference between sanity and chaos. Instead of stifling enjoyment, it saves mental energy and time so you have more fun.
I’m talking about this today because right now there is a huge Homemaking Bundle going on sale and one of the major themes of it is Organizing and Routines. I’ve read through a few of the ebooks so far and they are chock-full of ideas to help make daily life a little more smooth with kids. I’m inspired!
And I’m honored to have one of my very own ebooks included in the bundle, Slash Your Grocery Budget and Eat a Whole Foods Diet with ALDI.
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There’s a ton here, and it’s easy to get overwhelmed.
Here’s what I do when I get a bundle: I download everything, then quickly scan the titles and offerings.
I immediately delete everything I know I just won’t make the time to review because it doesn’t apply to me or I’m not interested. This cuts the “load” way down.
Then I start digging in and enjoying the content.
Once again, you have an entire YEAR to download the content so there’s no rush (and whatever you download is yours forever, of course).
Personally I hate having a weekend without a good book to read so this will keep your e-reader, laptop or phone full of awesome content for a long time!
(Note: I’m a proud affiliate of the Homemaking Bundle, so I’ll earn a small commission if you buy. Since several of these products and ebooks are things *I already own*, I’m convinced of the huge value, otherwise I wouldn’t be promoting it.)