My girlfriends and I met last night for our second monthly Happiness Project group meeting.
I was glad that one of the ladies was in a chatty mood. Because I wasn’t.
I have been thinking about how, for me at least, happiness is sometimes a matter of Two Steps Forward, One Step Back. It disappointed me. I want to be better, and do better all the time. I disappoint myself. And I can sometimes be impatient with circumstances that I can’t change.
I wanted to ask the ladies if they ever experienced blue or low moods “for no reason”. I wanted to ask them if they, too, felt that happiness was “two steps forward….”. I even wrote those those things down so I wouldn’t forget.
I never got around to asking. That’s ok. I’ll do it next time.
Today I feel better just because it’s sunny out and I’ve been outside most of the morning. That’s always an instant mood lifter for me. If only I could control the weather. Now, I could move to a place where it’s always sunny, but I would miss my family so much that I wouldn’t be happy. A conundrum.
One of my friends (the one who, at our first Group meeting, related that someone told her it was “selfish” to buy herself a treadmill?!) announced that she had lost 15 pounds since our last meeting.
Basking in the glow of her success brought me happiness, and I was reminded of why I wanted to do this Group thing. Sharing our successes gives us “double the pleasure”.
My goals for this month have mostly remained the same, but I dropped a few that ended up not being important, or that have already become more or less habit.
My NEW daily goals for April are:
- To perform one (not so random) Act of Kindness each day.
- To plan my week on Sunday nights, and write a nightly To-Do list as part of my Before Bed Routine.
- Remember to Pray and Breathe when I feel stressed.
- Thank someone sincerely (beyond a mere ‘thanks’) every day.
- Continue tracking every penny I spend. I use this free online tool: Every Dollar.
Do you have any happiness goals? I would love to hear about them.
Recommended Reading: The Happiness Project by Gretchin Rubin