How To Eat Like a French Woman

This post is about how to eat like a French woman, but let me first start by explaining why I wanted to write about this topic. My fascination with French women began 20 years ago. As a teen I worked for the clothing store Express, and I used my employee discount to buy this awesome book: French Style: How to Think, Shop, and Dress Like a French Woman

I spent hours and hours poring over its pages. I fell in love with imperfect hair, red lipstick (my trademark for years), sunglasses and black ballerina flats. The book is long out of print, but available on And I’ve never actually been to France, but it is a goal. I have a savings account that I automatically transfer money to each month to cover my travel expenses.

But let’s talk about food for a moment.

How To Eat Like a French Woman

My well-worn copy of French Women Don’t Get Fat (note multiple Post-it flags!)

No matter what you think of their politics or their people, no-one can dispute that the French have eating figured out.

The so-called French Paradox is the observation that the French have less obesity and heart disease despite relishing high fat foods. It has fascinated scientists and health experts for years. Actually it’s not a paradox at all because fats don’t cause heart disease, at least not the real food fats the French consume!

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The real “paradox” is that French women are far less concerned with “healthy eating” and macronutrients, and far more interested in the pleasure and social aspects of food. Yet, they are less likely to be overweight and don’t suffer the anxiety and even orthorexia that can come from an obsession with healthy diets.

In her book French Women Don’t Get Fat (that’s my beloved copy above), author Mireille Guiliano tells us all about the eating habits and philosophies of les femmes.

Since reading the book and others like it, I’ve tried my best to implement these principles into my life. And so I present:

How to Eat Like a French Woman

1) Focus On Pleasure

Forget counting calories, fussing with percentages and most of all DIETS! Dieting causes your metabolism to slow down and even one diet can ruin your weight loss efforts for years. Pleasure also includes all the senses: setting a lovely table, arranging food in an attractive way, and eating it with people you love.

2) Nothing Is Forbidden

French women don’t forbid any food. Alcohol, fats, carbs (hello baguette!), sweets – these are all okay periodically. Calling certain foods “bad” leads to a cycle of craving, binge eating and feelings of failure, guilt and general pathos around eating.

3) Eat REAL Food

Real food is what your great-grandmother would recognize as food. French women don’t sweeten things with fake sweeteners. They use real butter, not fake trans fats. Eat vegetables. Eat whole grains. Eat meat. Eat full fat dairy products. Real food means shopping more frequently, finding local food providers like farmer’s markets, farmers, butchers, fishmongers. It may mean (yikes!) spending more money on food.

Interestingly, Europeans as a whole spend a lot more money on food as a percentage of income than Americans. Why do we shy away from spending more money on quality food but don’t mind dropping $5 for a fancy coffee? French families eat out far less frequently than Americans do. Perhaps we should reallocate some of the eating out and Starbucks budget on real food?

Another interesting tidbit: French woman have the highest fecundity rates of all European women and have more kids than the average American, but don’t struggle as much with retaining baby weight, because of their habits.

4) Variété Is Very Important

French mothers (and really the entire culture supports this, there are even branches of government devoted to this goal) place great emphasis on educating their children to eat a wide variety of foods. Especially vegetables. Kids are taught not to refuse anything at table.

Try experimenting with vegetables rarely eaten by average Americans: things like leeks, kohlrabi, turnips. The first time I made my children leek soup, they loved it! Strangely, I grew up eating leek soup regularly and had never thought of feeding it to my kids.

5) Eat Only At Mealtimes, Only At The Table

No eating between meals. French women do not snack randomly. The 4:30 goûter is acceptable, but mostly for children. They also do not eat in cars. They do not eat standing up, while watching TV, browsing the internet, checking email on their phones. Sit down and eat properly. Using a cloth napkin and real plate are best.

6) Eat Mindfully, Slowly. Savor!

This one is probably the hardest for me. I have always been a fast eater, so I have to remind myself every single day to slow down. One thing that works for me is to eat with my fork in my left hand, or to flip my fork upside down and eat like the French do (with my knife in my right hand, fork in my left).

I now eat pizza with a fork just so I don’t wolf it down. Eating slowly makes for better digestion and helps you stay regular too. We all know that it takes our brains 20 minutes to register satiety. Eating mindfully and slowly means you eat less and enjoy more.

7) Fat Is Good

Low fat? Bien au contraire! Low fat means fake food (see rule #3). Eating fat means you feel full and stay full longer. Low fat eating causes most of us to crave sugar, and many women are experiencing health problems due to a low fat diet (such as infertility, disappearance of libido, dry skin and hair, depression, etc).

8) Movement, Not Exercise

A French woman wouldn’t be caught dead donning yoga pants and schlepping to the gym. But she does walk (or bike) everywhere! Incorporating more movement into your life is probably less stressful and more realistic than starting or keeping up with a complicated exercise program. Walking is probably safer and cheaper too, as well as environmentally friendly. A daily walk outside will do more for your waistline and mood and happiness than an unused gym membership or goofy workout DVD.

how to eat like a French woman

Those are the things I’ve learned about how to eat like a French woman. Do you have any of these habits?  What benefits have you noticed?

See also:

French Kids Eat Everything  (I adore this book and re-read it every year just to remind myself!)

Lessons from France: Eating, Fitness, Family – another lovely read, this one is an inexpensive ebook, a collaboration of several French mothers who share their diet and exercise philosophy and recipes

French Women For All Seasons – a nice French cookbook, by the author of French Women Don’t Get Fat

French eating habits, or what I would like to ask a Maman!

My review of Bringing Up Bebe – what can we learn from French mothers?

About Carrie

Happy wife, homeschooling mom of 7 curious kiddos, autodidact, author, blogger, head chef, wanna-be French girl and barefoot walker. Residing just outside Atlanta, usually found reading a book.


  1. Carrie, I feel like I should email you instead of leaving a comment! I always remember that you and I talked on the phone way back in the day (like 2003/2004?) about some business thing, we met online (of course). Anyway, I remember you talking about the French Women Don’t Get Fat book on a blog of yours and I never did read it. Of course now, we are going overseas for my husband’s job and I am going to get both of these books from the library! Thanks for the reminder. 🙂

  2. Yes, you’ll love them! The more I learn about nutrition, the more I think the French have it right 🙂 It’s not just their diet that’s healthy nutritionally speaking, it’s their entire attitude about food. 🙂

  3. These all sound like the way I eat except for 5 and 8. On that last one, I like going to the gym or running and the way I feel when I’ve got those seratonins flowing through the day afterward.

    On eating only at meals, I tend to bring a sack lunch to work and eat it throughout the day: 3-5 pieces of fruit and some sort of carb (today it’s a huge slice of leftover pizza, but someitmes it’s a couple of muffins or granola bars).


    P.S. Followed you over from Anne Bogel’s place.

  4. Debra Schramm says:

    I just found your blog and I love it but I can’t find where to subscribe to it for updates.

  5. Btw, the snacking one was hard for me at first to give up, because I tend to have a bit of hypoglycemia and I thought my kids could never give up snacking.

    Funny thing though, I had read a famous pediatrician (who is from Georgia and lived to be 103 – Dr. Leila Denmark) who said snacking was bad for kids because it made them eat poorly at meals (precisely why the French ban it for kids) and contributes to tooth decay. Then my 11 year old son’s dentist told me not to let him snack because it was giving him cavities. Even healthy foods!

    So that was it. I banned snacking and never looked back, and the kids are fine. 😉

  6. Hi Debra,

    Sorry I just began re-doing this blog (it’s several years old and I’m trying to resurrect it!) and haven’t set up my feed yet. But if you enter into your feed reader of choice it should work. I just did it for my google reader, and it came right up.


  7. Correction: I just double checked and Dr Denmark lived to be 114. At her death she was the 4th-oldest verified living person in the world and the 3rd-oldest verified living person in the United States.

  8. I just found your blog and looked at your books. They look like they’re right down my alley! I have four kids that I homeschool, and I work from home, so we have a bit in common. I’m also a planner, ALDI shopper and real food lover!

    I also just read “French Women Don’t Get Fat” and loved it! My kids and I often have a “French lunch or breakfast” and I serve it on china in courses for fun. They get quite a kick out of it. I’ll be following your blog and checking out your books.

  9. Great to “meet” you Jennifer!

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