I’ll never forget an experience I had shortly after my first child was born. Just a few weeks old, I had dressed him up to go to our place of worship. After settling down in my seat (after two hours of getting ready – why exactly does it take so long to get a tiny newborn ready to go anywhere?), I looked down at my precious sleeping newborn and noticed… dirt under his fingernails.
Postpartum hormones pumping through my veins, leaking from all my orifices, I burst into tears, worried that this was somehow prophetic of the fact that I was going to be a terrible mother.
Because what kind of mother would take her newborn out with dirt under his fingernails? And how do newborns even HAVE dirt under their nails? It isn’t as if they go crawling around in the garden!
My mother, thankfully, was present. She put her arm around me and said, “Honey, you’re going to go lots of places with your baby, and he’s going to have dirty fingernails sometimes. It doesn’t make you a bad mother!”
If we had had Instagram back then, I may have posted a pic with the hashtag #momfail.
The “dirt” under my newborn’s fingernails was, of course, MY OWN SKIN. Babies tend to scratch you, instead of themselves, when they’re held 24/7. Which he was.
It seems that modern moms focus on their perceived failings rather than being proud of the myriad things they do each and every day to serve their families.
I want to share a series of videos with you that may encourage you a little bit when you have one of those #momfail moments. Or days. (Or seasons.)
Included in the video series is a free downloadable handout to help you debrief those days and figure out how to make things better next time.
What do you think about #momfail culture?